The Short Guide To Adulthood
Being a youth in these times is no joke. Between the social pressures to be successful with a house, car and 2.5 kids and the unrelenting work world demanding that almost all of your time at a seemingly shrinking pay, it’s crazy how being a youth has become almost infinitely more difficult.
1. Fail but do it fast: Yes there is the fear of failure, it is built into all of us but we must let it overtake us to the point that we sit and wallow in the mediocre or sameness. The time of youth is the time that we are SUPPOSE to fail when you can properly brush yourself off, pick up the pieces and move on. So start that new business, go back to school if you want to, apply for that job that will make you happy. That world is yours.
2. Pick your team: Let me make ask this, my dear reader: Who are your friends? Is it the person who goes clubbing and gossips with you all the time? Or the person who pushes you to be better and try to better yourself? The ‘problem’ with choosing your team is that it may force you to reanalyze yourself and the person you are now and the person who you wish to be. To put it bluntly, some of our friends are not good friends. Clubbing, having fun and all that is great but everything must be balanced where is fun there must be a time for serious pursuits. If your “friend” is only there for the fun times, maybe you should rethink that friendship. Good friends are not yes men nor enablers of bad habits. Likewise, if your friend can’t honestly tell you when you are straying from your path or engaging in self destructive behaviors then you might have to take a stop and rethink who you are.
3. BUDGET, PLAN, BUDGET: Money doesn’t fall from trees, we wish it would but hey wishes are wishes, none of us has a fairy godmother and if you do well whoop de doo for you. For the less fortunate of us: Budgeting needs to become a second habit. We have the tendency to spend money as soon as it comes. Look, I’m not telling you that the new iPhone X isn’t a pretty nice phone but spending 135k on something that’s easily broken by a simple leap from your pocket is kinda crazy when you really think about it… Essentially if the negatives from your spending outweigh the positives well maybe that’s a no no eh?
The most problematic is the purchase of a vehicle. Benefits: I have a drive to go anywhere I want at any time, also I don’t have to take a taxi and have that woman reading my messages with me and bragging rights. Negatives: Monthly payments Insurance, crazy gas prices, vehicle maintenance, Upkeep and the list goes on.
A simple equation I’ve found useful: Am I spending money I don’t have on things I don’t need to impress people who don’t care/I don’t like?
Well that’s my list for today, what are some tips you would give your younger self to navigate adulthood? Drop them in the comments below!